I used to "save" people, even though it was slowly draining my energy and my sanity.⠀

I grew up with a mom who wanted to SERVE, even though she had none, she would give... and give... and give... And I would see her cry sometimes when she's alone in her room. Growing up in that kind of environment made me feel so guilty whenever I turn people down.⠀

The moment I realized that pattern, I started saying NO to draining demands (and draining conversations).⠀

I lost a lot of friends.⠀

I've had uncomfortable conversations with family members.⠀

I released and transmuted toxic patterns and relationships that don't make me grow anymore.⠀

I keep the lessons and move forward in peace.⠀

I started doing things that I actually want and value.⠀

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This is a reminder for us leaders and changemakers to learn how to stand in the power of an authentic NO. 😌☝️⠀

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If it doesn't make you feel good, if it drains you, if you're not moving FORWARD in your life because you're trying so hard to please the people you care about--- Pause. Reflect. Ask yourself if you'd still allow it to continue, or if you'd like to move on to something better.⠀

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You have that choice, and you can decide now.